I am reading a book entitled, Adopted for Life, by Russell D. Moore. If you have ever even considered adoption this book is for you. This book was given to us by a young man who embodies the scripture in I Timothy 4:12 “ Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity”. He is a college student but believes so much in adoption and supporting those who are adopting that he gave us the book along with a donation to our adoption.
Why I had never really considered the fact that Joseph was an adoptive father of Jesus I do not know. But, Moore brings this out in his book. Here is one paragraph of this amazing book:
“Joseph serves as a model to follow as we see what’s at stake in the issue of adoption. Joseph, after all, is an adoptive father. In some ways, his situation is, of course, far different from that of any reader holding this book right now. In other ways, though, Joseph’s mission belongs to all of us. As Joseph images the father of the fatherless, he shows us how adoption is more than charity. It’s spiritual warfare.” P. 59
It surely would have been so much easier for Joseph to forget this whole fatherhood thing, especially considering what others thought. But, thankfully, he obeyed.
Please pray for us as we have a Skype grant interview on April 28th in the evening. We also have an opportunity with Lifesong for a program called “Helping Hands.” This is best explained by visiting this link and watching the short video: http://www.lifesongfororphans.org/adoption-funding/both-hands/
We recently were told that the earliest we would go for our first trip is early fall. The wait is hard, but apparently this is happening across the board with all Haiti adoptions, with all agencies and all states as they transition to a Hague adoptive country. We continue to pray for miraculous intervention by the Lord that our sons can get home in record time….and for His glory. Would you join us in prayer for this? We continue to ask the Lord for our first two week trip to be this summer and that the boys would be home by Christmas.
We were advised it might be helpful to share what we have personally given, so that others realize we are not expecting this entire adoption be funded by others. We have refinanced, used our tax return and put some on a 0% interest credit card to get the first payment made. That was about $33,500.
We continue to be blessed in so many ways that we see the Lord providing and working. May we share some of the many different ways the Lord has provided?
- Tonight was one of my favorite donations. After our devotions about caring for the orphan and widow…Joshua brought us $20.00 and said, “This is for the adoption.” Our children have already sacrificed their allowances and report card money, so this was huge! Thank you Joshua!
- One night several months back when Ron was waiting in line at Meijer he began talking with an older lady. She brought up being thankful for our food and then she shared she had been to Haiti on a mission trip before. Ron shared we had the privilege to go on mission trips to the DR and we were adopting from Haiti. Then she asked if we were the family in the paper and Ron said yes. When Ron went to pay for our groceries she insisted on paying, saying, “The Lord told me to do this.”
- Another woman said she was sharing this story with her hairdresser while getting her hair done. When her hair was done her hairdresser said, don’t pay me give this to the family that is adopting. (we don’t even know either of these people)
- Another lady we do know said her family collected donations at Christmas.
- My mom has been passing out fliers at her swim class and even her dentist helped in our matching grant.
- We have had several donations of clothes for the boys and for our girls. These things help so much as well.
- There is a lady at church who gives us eggs each week.
- My wonderful husband is working so hard teaching an extra hour this year and possibly next year.
- So many of you have shared our story on facebook and with friends.
- Another gal gave us her fundraising donations from her pilates class.
- We had never (please don’t scold us) set up a will and custody officially, and this kind gentlemen did it for us at a very reduced rate, Thank you!
- We have been amazed by the number of former students who have given and encouraged us!
- Our ladies prayer team has been praying for us every time they meet.
- Our Pastors and staff pray for us every Tuesday
- Several people have written us several grant referral letters.
- More sweet stories next time!
Thank you all so much for your prayers as we wait. This in some ways is the hardest part. We know God always works in our lives through waiting though. So, we will wait upon Him.
“My soul waits for the Lord…” Psalm 130:6
For a tax deductible donation go here: http://www.awaa.org/give/eternal_family_program.aspx
or click on eleven campaign to give to our you caring sight.
There are two common questions we get regarding the adoption. First, where will you put the boys? We will be giving the “boys” all 6 of them our bedroom. Our bedroom is the biggest; we will then take the bedroom that Luke and Josh are currently using. We will put in three sets of bunk beds. We are going to be doing a lot of pairing down, reorganizing and thinking how to use our space effectively. While we could make the basement a bedroom, we would then have the cost of an egress window and would really miss that space for our family room. I guess everything is relative. We really feel like the verse in 1 Timothy 6:8 that says “But, if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.” We feel it a privilege to be able to be the parents of these four precious boys and feel at peace with using this home and the space we have. Technically when we are all together, our van is shy one seat. On these occasions we will drive both vans as our white van will be paid off in one year.
The second most common question is when are they coming? We are praying that they will be home by Christmas. But, by the timelines for each step we are given it could be much longer. Everything depends on how fast things go through the Haitian government. As soon as we get fingerprinted on Thursday and our I-171H gets turned in to America World then we can have our complete dossier sent. From that time we wait upon many steps that have to happen in the Haitian government. Governments of any kind are not always known to be quick. Please join us in specifically praying for the boys to be home AMAZINGLY FAST, in record time!
We have raised about $14,030 so far including all 3 donation methods. We are currently applying for many grants. It seems like I keep saying this, but we have been so blessed by the giving of so many. It is a humbling thing to have to raise money. I was kind of wishing we had an Olympic downhill ski suit to sell to provide some extra funds for the adoption!
Lastly, honestly, for me (Michelle) personally, my heart aches. It aches for the day to bring them home. I am scared in many ways, yet feel the Lord’s peace. We know this journey will be hard. Probably the hardest hard we have ever had, yet we know that the journey Christ took for you and me, dying an excruciating death on the cross was hard too. It was so hard in fact, that he asked the Father if there was any chance this cup could pass from him. Hardness doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do something, it just means you won’t be able to do it without the power of God working through you and in you by the Holy Spirit. We don’t know how many days we are given on this earth, why not live them all for Him? May He be glorified.
The Schaffner Family, someday, all 13 of us!
Sometimes we have to be creative…Ally went to get her sipper cup of milk and ended up with the fridge handle in her hand! This is what I love about Jesus! He has SO changed my affections for the things of this world…to the things of the next world! I DON’T CARE if I don’t have a cool fridge. My fridge keeps my food cold. That is all I need. The money saved can be used to adopt an orphan! Thank you, Jesus, for changing my heart. You are amazing and so very graceful to me.