I am taking a moment to share a little update with all of you amazing people that have been on this journey with us!
The school year has come to a close and now we enter a calmer season in our lives. We have a ton of appointments these next few weeks and have lots of home projects, cleaning and organizing to get done this summer. In addition, I have been called for jury duty for July and August. I am not particularly thrilled about that, but thankful that they delayed it for me from last fall so that Ron can be home. We are also looking forward to a trip up north and some other fun things we have planned. The boys are starting to have memories of fun things we did last summer and are excited about these events happening again!
The boys have adjusted well overall and we are giving thanks for the Lord’s provision in every way. Each of them will have appointments at the U of M to do a psychological evaluation of the past trauma they have endured. Sometimes others see them managing so well, that they forget all that has happened to them in their short little lives. Children can be very resilient, but we are praying we can find some good support to help them in their hidden pain. It is how Christ is healing the broken and binding up their wounds.
I am now in counseling and will be for a while. My therapist shared with me that I am the container for the whole family’s “junk.” Some days I must recognize I am carrying someone else’s junk and release that to the Lord. Please know that so many of you have been so supportive to us these past 5 years in a myriad of ways and we so appreciate it and give thanks to the Lord for it. We have really had to pull back and focus on our main priorities right now.
- Our personal walks with the Lord
- Our marriage (we walk each night and are going on a monthly date!)
- Our children
Some forget about how many children we have which means we have a lot of needs to meet and daily tasks to care for. This is also why I have pretty much removed myself from facebook. It was certainly contributing to my depression as well as being a time waster, not that I spent a lot of time there, but the time I did took away much needed emotional space and quiet. I have found great peace in this decision. And lately I have started to feel times and moments where I “feel like myself” again.
Some of you may know that the Lord has lead us to a church that is multicultural with more diversity. It is very important for our adopted sons to have mirrors in their lives. They actually at one point thought any black person they saw was from Haiti. The church we are attending has a black lead pastor and we have found Vineyard a great blessing for us. Josh and Abi continue to attend Knox, but occasionally join us.
My dad broke his hip back in February and had surgery and is now home and doing well.
Lastly, I would like to share an opportunity with you. So many of you have been so generous with us in our fundraising efforts and I would like to share about a young couple who have been called to adopt as well that could use financial and prayer support. Travis and Natalie Keller have recently taken in a young boy through foster care and also are adopting one or two children from South Africa. If you pray and feel lead to join in this call for them, please follow the you caring link at the end of this post. This will also take you to their blog, where you can read their story.
In my reading about adoption I have seen that a big and common reason many Christians choose not to adopt even after they have felt God nudge at their heart to do that is the finances.
I will say from personal experience trying to write for grants and fundraise is a job in itself. Natalie and Travis both already work full time and anything you donate helps them be able to bring home their child or children. The stress of paperwork and all the preparation is so trying that it was always such a blessing to receive a gift to reassure us of God’s call and His amazing provision and was so much simpler than applying for a ton of grants!
Might you help them in this call? “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress.” James 1:27
Please pray for them and please pray for us.
2 Corinthians 8:1-9 The Message (MSG)
8 1-4 Now, friends, I want to report on the surprising and generous ways in which God is working in the churches in Macedonia province. Fierce troubles came down on the people of those churches, pushing them to the very limit. The trial exposed their true colors: They were incredibly happy, though desperately poor. The pressure triggered something totally unexpected: an outpouring of pure and generous gifts. I was there and saw it for myself. They gave offerings of whatever they could—far more than they could afford!—pleading for the privilege of helping out in the relief of poor Christians.