I have felt led to share with each of you a part of the adoption process that is something we all need reminded of. This is especially true since we are adopting older children. At least for the children at the orphanage we are adopting from, they are surrounded by directors and a staff that really care about them. Some of the nannies must take the day off from work when certain children that they have grown especially close to go home. The children become close friends, almost like siblings with many of the children in the orphanage. Three families are in Haiti this week at our orphanage getting ready to bring their children home. When these children are old enough to understand the process, we must remember that for some the orphanage may be all they know. This is their family, their security, their home. This can be very hard. While they do need to be in a loving family with a mom and a dad, the first steps of this process are not easy. I tried to explain it to my children like this: pretend you have grown up and live at the school. You would grow even closer to the teachers that you have and the other students would become more like brothers and sisters. To have to leave that security would be hard. If you think of them today would you remember these sweet families in your prayers that their children would feel their love and care? They will be entering a whole new world, a different culture, a different language, different food, and I am sure it will take some time and adjustment. Please continue to pray for us as we help our sons make this transition when they come home as well.
Lastly, I think it is very important to remember that while God allowing us to adopt these boys is an amazing thing, it is one that has come with pain. The story that is theirs of arriving at the orphanage is theirs to share, not for me to share here. But it is not the story I would have written for them if I were the author of their book. I would have wanted them to avoid this painful detour filled with loss and trauma if I could have. But sometimes the sinfulness of man and the brokenness of this world we live in writes the story differently. There are many stories in the World of pain and hurt. What is our response? Is our response to just see the pain and recoil back into our safe havens? Jesus came to redeem us and restore our lives that we might go about and share His love and His compassion with others. He became poor that we might be rich: rich with peace of soul and with joy eternal. He did this not so we could hide this gift of light and redemption in our own souls, but so we could share it with others.
Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. Matthew 5:15
And as much as I would love to have others think great things of us in this process, we can claim none. It is in brokenness of loss that God re-opened our hearts to adoption. Four miscarriages resulted in the clear all of adoption. While this call was always deep in our hearts from the beginning, it really was this difficult loss and pain that awakened me to the pain of life, the reality that things don’t always go as planned. And now, with an unknown journey ahead of us, we rejoice in the One who knows us best, who holds our hands through each of our days. I often think of Joseph, Silas, Mercy and Paul, our glory babies, and wonder what they look like and look forward to meeting them in heaven one day. But for now, He has given us a calling, a calling to love with all we have four more children; Lord willing coming home soon.
Love and Blessings,
Michelle and family