The Trial of Waiting

I don’t know why it has taken me this long to realize that the waiting is the trial.  The Lord has promised us that when we are believers we will face trials of many kinds.” Consider it pure joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.  And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing”.” James 1:2-4.   For some reason though, it seems the trials sneak up on us and are in different forms than we expect and we are then thrown off guard, questioning His plan, questioning His ways.   I have felt all along such a great peace re; the Lord providing financially for this adoption and He has proved Himself faithful.  I guess I knew deep down inside that Ron and I were willing to sell our house and rent if we could find no other way to pay for it.  That having been said, the trial for me has come along these lines of waiting.  Waiting in the beginning to hear if we were in a long line of people wanting to adopt these boys?  Then, waiting to hear if we would receive pre-approval due to our current family size.  And now, waiting for a referral.  Originally this adoption was supposed to happen quickly.  When you are adopting older children and sibling groups, these children are considered “waiting” children.  This usually means a quicker process.  In our case, due to Haiti becoming a Hague adoptive country, it means more waiting.  I mean we have literally thought for 6 months, today could be the day!  I am emotionally drained of that.   

What happens in the wait?  I have thought of how I long to meet our sons.  Then the Lord asked me, Do you long to see me?  Do you long to meet with me every day?  Do you long for my return?  Ugh, punch to the gut! 

One version of Psalm 46:10 that we normally hear is “Be still and know that I am God.”  Another version says “Cease striving and know that I am God.”  Wow, cease striving.  Just sit there and let God work.  Honestly, I am weary of striving.  I am weary of paperwork and fundraising.  I am fundraised out.  I am weary of figuring and refiguring the numbers to see how close we are.  I just want to me a mom again, not an accountant, not a grant writer, not a fundraiser.  We feel we have raised enough. I am now ceasing striving.  The beginning of Psalm 46 says: “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.  Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change and though the mountains slip into the heart of the sea.”  I am now going to embrace this trial of waiting, now that I have properly identified it.   I am going to “consider it all joy.”  The Lord has designed this trial just for me, for His glory. It will accomplish what He needs to accomplish in a way nothing else could.  He is preparing us, preparing our sons and being God.  We try to put God in a box, a nice cozy box….where we can predict Him, figure Him out.  We want a nice, predictable comfortable life.  So now, I must let God be the God of the Universe and the Lord of my life by letting go.  “Lord, I entrust to You the timing of our sons coming home.  You know my heart longs for them to come home quickly, but I know that You are watching over them right now.  You are Holy, Righteous, Sovereign, Good and faithful.  You know when we should receive a referral, when we should travel, when ours sons should come home.  I will be still and wait upon You.  I will trust You. You know every detail. You know our heart’s ache, You know their pain.  In the same way You wait patiently for the lost to come home to You.  You are not held by the constraints of time as we are.  We know that You have put eternity in the hearts of men.  Help me to embrace the wait, to see it as the trial it is and allow the Joy.  I love you Lord.  I will extol your name!” 

If you do not know Jesus today, what is stopping you?  He loves you and adores you, He died on the cross for my sin and yours.  He paid the price for you to be adopted into His family and become His son or daughter.  That is love.




12 thoughts on “The Trial of Waiting

  1. Oh those punch you in the gut moments. You have been diligent in your efforts for these children and that is not unnoticed. Lay back and float, God’s love is your buoyancy.

  2. sally and russ says:

    Letting go and letting God do His thing and in His time can be most difficult. He does have it under control. Today’s message reminded me of the value of life. You are all in our prayers.

  3. Waiting probably is one of the hardest trials we go through in life. We wait for everything, waiting in line, wait for doctor results, wait for answers, wait for the pain to go away. We live our life “waiting.” Jesus was seriously the only person that showed the perfect example to wait graciously. From the time He was born He knew He was going to walk down that dusty road carrying that cross on His beaten back. Waiting to die for me….that’s an incredible wait. I am so glad to know that even Jesus is waiting today for His Father to tell Him to come and get His Bridegroom. “Waiting” is certainly an emotional feeling Christ can relate with us in.

    Waiting graciously and learning in the mean time is tough, but knowing that there is not an emotion out there that Jesus didn’t experience too, gives me comfort. I love you and you are doing an outstanding job waiting.

  4. Don Fry says:

    Your heartfelt comments and references to waiting were sobering and inspiring. You and your family have waited and waited and waited…..and yet God asks you wait even more. Difficult to understand but perfectly understandable once you accept that God has a plan. You and your family are a blessed example of faith in God. My prayers and support continue.

  5. Dear Don, Thank you, I so needed that today. I asked the Lord for some sort of sign for strength to press on. Like Josh said, mom, if we just knew a day it would help. Instead it feels like it could be forever away. Thank you for your prayers. Blessings, Michelle

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s